"The fact that our perspectives diverge doesn’t threaten the truth of our own experiences."

"Some people in sex-positive circles will mock anyone who isn’t sufficiently sexually experienced or interested in wild and crazy sex. Some people in feminist crowds will claim that everyone who engages in certain sexual acts must be acting out due to abuse or unhappiness.

Many people in each of these groups often ignore the fact that porn, BDSM, and sexwork can be both a source of joy and a source of pain, as can monogamous, vanilla sex. Both sides hold one piece of the puzzle and claim that it’s the whole thing. And that is the height of arrogance."

Adult sexuality educator Charlie Glickman, writing on "Sex-Positivity and Speaking With Care". The entire article is well worth the read.